Submitted by ThrowRA300069 t3_zzl2a6 in relationship_advice
My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months.
We've been apart for the last few weeks visiting family in different cities but speaking regularly, and today she called to confess that last night she slept at a guy's house who she is friends with (in the same bed as him) and cuddled, but claims nothing sexual happened. She also told me she used to hook up with this guy before she moved to my city half a year ago. She attributed sleeping with him to strong inescapable feelings of loneliness and isolation with us being apart, and her not realizing it was a bad thing to do until she thought about it the next day. Prior to this I've never had the slightest reason to not trust her, and I'm happy at least she told me and didn't hide it.
To me this feels like an absolute relationship-ending violation of trust anyways - it feels like an obvious boundary that shouldn't be crossed, I can't rationalize her doing this, and it's very upsetting... but she's asking me if I'd try going to therapy with her in an attempt to work things out or if I "don't want to try".
I really like this girl but feel like this isn't something that can be worked out and leaning towards just ending it - am I crazy for thinking so? Do people really try to work such issues out a few months into a relationship? I haven't in my life had my trust broken like this so I'm a bit unsure how to feel right now.
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