Everyone should develop a healthy mother and father internally for themselves. To nurture your inner child. It’s no one’s turn but yourself. You need to talk to the immature emotions for what they are… immature and childish. That’s developing self parenting skills. You’ll always need a parent it just becomes your responsibility to be your own after awhile. Once that’s healed you’ll grow a lot.

When you go to therapy that’s generally the reason they ask about how you grew up and your relationship with your parents. it helps gauge what type of parenting skills you have.

Maybe you had to grow up fast. You have to nurture and protect your inner child. But in an argument it sounds like that child is coming out. Not the parent.

Go to therapy. Any therapist worth their salt will hone in on that pretty quickly. You’re not alone especially someone in their early 20s. I was a man baby until my mid 20s. It fucking sucks but you’re self aware enough where now you have an obligation to your inner child and those that you’re affecting with your behavior.