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ThrowRaConfusedAF090 OP t1_j2cud0w wrote

Reply to comment by Buranwasbetter in [21M][20F] Ex texted me after 2 years saying she's pregnant by ThrowRaConfusedAF090

He said that his ex has lied for attention in the past and wanted proof before meeting. But ex hasn't responded

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[deleted] t1_j2cv3ul wrote

None of this matters at all. The only thing that matters for him is a paternity test.

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okverymuch t1_j2dlflv wrote

If she’s not willing to take a photo of her and the child and send him some basic details, then it’s likely it is a lie. OP says she’s lied to get attention before.

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ThrowRaConfusedAF090 OP t1_j2dpnu7 wrote

He's tried to contact hee and ask for proof of the child even existing. He asked for a picture of a birth certificate and a picture of her holding thr child. No response yet.

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UnquantifiableLife t1_j2egyu3 wrote

This happened to a friend of mine. He got a lawyer to send her a registered letter demanding a paternity test. Until she complied, he would have nothing to do with her or the child. Remarkably, he never heard from her again.

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enonymousCanadian t1_j2fd8p6 wrote

If she won’t text a picture of her with a child it’s highly unlikely she even has one. My kids aren’t on any social media but texting photos isn’t a privacy concern!

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ThrowRaConfusedAF090 OP t1_j2fsrmk wrote

She said she's willing to meet in public to show birth certificate and pictures. My SO is still suspicious on what she has to gain if it's fake.

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ShaktinCO t1_j2frs4i wrote

tell her "proof or take it to the courts and prove it there. until such a time as you provide proof a child even exists that could remotely actually be his, do not contact again."

create a throw away gmail account. provide that account to the ex GF. inform her that she will be blocked on ALL other forms of communication. once proof is provided (if it is) then arrange to meet IN PUBLIC to get a DNA sample of the child's to compare to your SO.

proof likely won't be sent, but at least there is an avenue in the event she isn't lying about the child.

likely she is, because why didn't she go after support?

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itsallminenow t1_j2dxw3b wrote

There's no avoiding the science of DNA tests. He gets proof, he knows where he stands. If she consistently refuses to allow him a test then that's an answer in itself.

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Devi1_May_Cry t1_j2esbxq wrote

>wanted proof before meeting.

He can be on the phone with her and be like, "I want proof of life!" and sound like all the cool action movie heroes of the early 2000s.

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