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Biceratops_Wrex t1_j2ctt60 wrote

Get a DNA test and go through the courts to make custody arrangements. If the kid isn't yours, that's it. If the kid is yours decide how much contact you want. If the kid is yours, you will likely owe some child support.

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ThrowRaConfusedAF090 OP t1_j2cubch wrote

He asked for proof first before meeting because the ex had a history of lying for attention just to meet up and talk with him.

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Biceratops_Wrex t1_j2cunci wrote

More reason to go through the courts. He needs to see an attorney and if the kid is his and he wants to be a father. They need to do custody changes in a public place and all communication needs to be written. It's perfectly fine for him to say "I'd like to handle this through the court system and I am not interested in having any relationship with you."

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lolifax t1_j2de2ww wrote

Make her go to court. If she’s just seeking attention, she won’t.

If the court orders a DNA test and the child is not his, then he’s done.

If the child is his, he will owe child support and will have the opportunity to come up with a court approved joint custody arrangement that protects him from his ex.

Going the legal route is the best way to keep maximum distance with the ex while looking out for the child’s needs.

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Dont139 t1_j2cwsm1 wrote

That changes nothing about a child being his. He needs to meet with the kid, go do the dna test himself

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