[18M] [18F] Girlfriend randomly sending nudes

Submitted by iColtBrawl t3_zz3uvk in relationship_advice

She has just been sending me stuff the past few days and we just started our relationship not too long a go.

I held off on sex with her until she came to me for it because her exes only used her for that.

I wanted to show her I enjoy her for just her and not her body. She is an amazing girl.

Obviously I love the nudes, but at the same time I worry maybe she is just sending them because thats all she was to her exes. Just a person for sexual pleasure. I worry she thinks she isnt good enough for me so she makes it up with these pictures.

Once she broke down crying because she thought I was upset that she didn't want to have sex one day, I wasnt even mad at all. She just was so worried thats bc shes been treated like shit.

How do I go about this? Or do I just leave it be. I dont even send her pics back, she never even asks.

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burner-throwaway-lol t1_j299chk wrote

>Once she broke down crying because she thought I was upset that she didn't want to have sex one day

That seems a little 'more' than 'just' a random breakdown, a lot of people will try to emotionally manipulate you in certain ways.

Maybe she simply has a higher drive and wants more?

My GF enjoys sending shower snaps, they're nice to look at and she feels sexy taking them. They're not a required thing and I don't explicitly ask for them but it's a positive dynamic.

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iColtBrawl OP t1_j299tfy wrote

No she is the opposite of manipulative. She genuinely has been treated like shit. She has a super high drive, just don't want her feeling like thats all I want yk

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burner-throwaway-lol t1_j29apmy wrote

>She has a super high drive

You might see an overall improvement by matching it.

It's simple to have a sexual dynamic and still treat someone with respect.

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LeilaDFW t1_j29ghbb wrote

Just talk to her. Trying to guess what she is thinking isn’t going to work. Just talk. Tell her how YOU feel. Spend time together doing things you both enjoy. Time together and communication is the key.

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grissy t1_j2ad4au wrote

Tell her essentially what you just told us. Hell, show her the post if you want.

"I love you for a million reasons and not just sex. You don't have to do anything with me you don't feel like, and that includes sex or sexts. I love when we're together and I love getting dirty pictures but I just want you to understand that those things aren't requirements for me and if there's ever a day you're not feeling it don't feel forced, I promise it's cool."

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