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IntrospectOnIt t1_j2fcshi wrote

This is plain disregard. Don't let anyone tell you this is executive dysfunction cause it's not. I have executive dysfunction and the guilt eats me alive every single day, especially on days I don't get a single chore done.

Tell him that there is a difference between unwinding and escaping reality and he is not living in reality at the moment. The reality is that he is an adult and he has responsibilities beyond work.

Unwinding is fine IN MODERATION. Sometimes I get stuck on my PC games too, but I work myself around "one more round and I'll get up and do a load of laundry and then start another round." Because my executive dysfunction might be trying to drain me, but I can fake it out with intermittent dopamine inputs.

He doesn't even seem to think keeping any part of the house clean is something he should DO, He's not struggling with this at all. He just wants you to leave him alone so he can game in peace and you can clean up after him like his mommy. You should send him back.

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Drawing_The_ OP t1_j2fdlj8 wrote

I've brought it up with his mother and she said that often times she would turn his PC off because he wouldn't do what he was asked to. I've done it once before and it got results for a bit but I don't want to have to do that. I just want him to understand that he needs to help out.

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IntrospectOnIt t1_j2fdw1v wrote

Then stop. I know it will drive you crazy but ONLY clean up after yourself. Let him sit in his own filth and if he NEVER shows any motivation to not live like that? Just pack your shit and leave him in his own filth.

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