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You sure yall aren't like 12? This reaction is very childish ngl.

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Nah the right age💀 also forgot to mention he had got off the game I tried cheering him up apologizing

That's good but being real the way you acted wasn't very mature. You should probably work on your conflict resolution skills better.

This sounds like it was written by a 12yo not an 18yo.

You sound like you are very immature and manipulative. Your behaviour was not how you resolve conflict.

Yeah I’m working on it being in a house hold of mad shit, I grew up very independent closed off and working on being more myself how I used to be as young I mean I’m young still but ykw I mean, I want some advice on how do I stop being this way I been doing a lot of self improvement but I can’t shake this idk if it’s me being competitive wanting to be the best or just being extremely clingy

Yeah I’m working on it being in a house hold of mad shit, I grew up very independent closed off and working on being more myself how I used to be as young I mean I’m young still but ykw I mean, I want some advice on how do I stop being this way I been doing a lot of self improvement but I can’t shake this idk if it’s me being competitive wanting to be the best or just being extremely clingy

Do you have any advice anything would be helpful

Do you have any advice

Well for starters communication is important. If you're upset you should calmly explain why you are upset and maybe suggest ways to alleviate your issues. You were upset cause your bf had the extra pets well then you should have said something to him and suggested how he could make you feel better instead of stone walling him when he tried.

Yeah ik 💀 I wasn’t mad on the more pets really I just wanted to program the same time in a way idk

Then voice that. He can't read your mind so you shouldn't expect him to. Talk to him and come to healthy resolutions.

I try to but sometimes it feel like it’s not getting out or I’m not saying right, then sometimes it feels like he’s not listening which I do tell him

Maybe you should seek therapy to find healthy coping mechanisms so thos doesn't happen.

They are so far mann I’m trying😭 Tryna see if my doc can get me one for free as well and find a easy transportation to it

See about one of those online therapists

I was thinking about it but I feel like in person would be better. Also I don’t wanna pay to much for one, I still have my college and etc

If you're in college check to see if your college offers free therapy. They usually do

Not in yet but will be in a few months getting stuff ready

Might be best to wait till then as it would be easier to start then instead of changing therapists.

Okay thank you for the advice

Np. Best of luck

You're not being 'competitive'. You simply don't want him to be paying attention to anyone other than you even in team games. If you can't handle the fact he's going to talk to others when you game,then irs probably not something you should be doing together

It’s not the talking to others when it was cod I just wanted the first time to be us as I ain’t know the game well and felt left out, and in the game today it just felt we wasn’t playing together as he was finishing stuff faster after I sat I noticed I was being dumb. And it’s leasing to him nit wanting to play with me and sometimes Ik it’s me being competitive cause the sec time playing cod I was more upset that I couldn’t help