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>Not only am I filled with guilt, but I am filled with trepidation about losing my current girlfriend, who I actually hoped to get married to and start a family with. I know I was wrong for cheating and this might be my karma/punishment. Some might say that I deserve this to happen to me. Or that I don’t deserve a future with my current girlfriend.

You realize that every single one of these sentences, you are the only one that you're thinking about right?

And yes, she does deserve far better than you. For that matter so does the ex-girlfriend who didn't know that you were in a serious relationship when you slept with her again.

I'd say let these women find faithful and good partners and that you spend some time alone to work on yourself before you get involved with someone else and make their lives as messy as you just did to these two women.

You are truly a piece of shit. The fact you could do that to either women just proves how shitty of a person you are. You do not deserve either. Grow up and let both of these woman go so they can find someone that deserves them.

So, you were raw dogging it with your ex while having sex with your current?

She needs to know so she can go get infection tested.

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Damn dude!

You're gonna get your balls cut off 😂

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You should break up with both of them and stop dating until you grow up and learn to think of others before yourself.

You need to be honest with both of them. Running away without telling them the real reason would be cowardly on top of your utterly shite behaviour so far.

Taking responsibility and owning your actions will be the start of your journey from cunt to human.

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You think there’s a shot she’s going to just forgive you for cheating on her and help you raise your affair baby that would be a constant reminder of your betrayal?

Not only are you, in fact, a scumbag, but you’re also lacking a great number of brain cells.

If you actually had any guilt, you would've fessed up the minute you regretted it.

You're just regretting the fact there's actual proof to your cheating that you won't be able to hide.

Kindah embarrassing at your big age.

I am laughing at you. This is bullshit. “filled with guilt”. 🤮🤮🤮. You are full of shit is what you are.full of. You are a cheater and now you are caught!! I hope your girlfriend never talks to your cheater ass again. You wanted to get off and have fun so you fooled around with your ex and now not only will you pay for at least 18 years but that poor child will pay to have 2 parents that act like kids. “i find myself in a horrible predicament “ Yes, one of your own making because you couldn’t keep your dick in your pants and be a faithful man. You are a pitiful excuse for a man. No one feels sorry for you !! Karma !!

So, if your ex hadn’t gotten pregnant you would have continued on with your current gf like nothing happened, correct? You would continue lying to her.

Tell your gf the truth and then walk away. If she is as great as you say, then she will have no problem finding someone else who will treat her with the love and respect she deserves.

This whole post is about you saving your butt because you got caught. It’s not about you messing up, taking accountability, and trying to fix things.

"I'm just wondering if there are any other ways of going about this"

You mean the magic way that makes your ex have a miscarriage and keeps your girlfriend from finding out?

Are you really being serious now?

Your dick didn't accidentally end up inside your ex after you slipped on a banana peel. You had sexual conversations with her and then got in your car and went to see her. Oh, and you somehow forgot to mention to your ex that you have a girlfriend.

You're 35. Be a grown up and tell your current girlfriend that you betrayed her and let her dump you.

Then you need to stop dating while you get some therapy and focus on being a dad. You need to expect more from yourself, especially at your age. Cause right now, you are an embarrassment.

Reminds me of the phrase that is so true "You don't feel bad that you committed the crime, you just feel bad that you got caught and have to pay for it.". Very sad.

>>I’m just wondering if there are any other ways to go about this.

You’re asking if there’s any way to avoid the consequences of being a total piece of shit, and the answer is no.

Hiding this will absolutely blow up in your face. If you want any sort of chance with your current girlfriend, you are going to have to tell her. And you’re going to have to watch it completely destroy her. And you’re going to have to do anything she needs you to in order to help her heal, even if it means leaving her.

If she does decide to allow you to try to make it up to her, just know that the person she sees you as will be completely altered. How she feels about you, how she feels about herself, how she feels about intimacy, how she feels about the relationship, her trust in you, her love for you, her patience and understanding with you, will all be changed.