The fact he doesnt want you to go to college is a massive red flag. To me it shows that he wants you to be reliant on him rather then being independent. It's easier to control people when they have no means to support themselves. Yeah he can say and do all sorts of sweet stuff but at the end of the day he only wants to control you. You can make up all the excuses in the world to stay with him and not go to college. I mean its your life your wasting not mine. Just don't be surprised when you start resenting him once your eyes open up.