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GivesYouBells t1_j2f6qro wrote

Reply to comment by Sweet-Amoeba- in [22F][32M] Boyfriend’s been away for almost 3 months and sometimes doesn’t respond to my texts for over a day. Is this something to get upset over? by [deleted]

You’re entitled to express your feelings. No one can change the way you feel, including him. You guys have a pretty significant age gap… your prefrontal cortex isn’t even fully formed yet, respectfully, and you’re likely pretty mature from the way you write. I definitely can relate and understand from relationships I was in when I was your age (I’m 26f). But honestly, the further you go into this relationship feeling like you shouldn’t bring up your feelings about something that bothers you is another brick in the wall between you.

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Sweet-Amoeba- t1_j2f7b6l wrote

I know Reddit doesn’t like age gaps but we do have a very healthy dynamic and people have commented that we are great together. We are also at similar life stages. I know that maybe my perspective on communication might still change in the future since I’m still young, so I’m just asking objectively if that’s a reasonable complaint to have. I guess you’re right and I should probably bring it up anyway.

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GivesYouBells t1_j2f7vyo wrote

It is very reasonable!!!!!!! And believe me, I’ve dated guys, 7-9 years older than me, my grandmother met my grandfather when she was 17 and he was 53, so no judgment whatsoever. Woman to woman, the hardest thing I’ve had to overcome to make my relationships successful is thinking that my feelings are not the most important thing in the relationship. His are just as important, and I think realizing you’re upset will help with the issue.

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