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undercovertortoise t1_iycrc13 wrote

Reply to comment by Standard_Buffalo7762 in My (27M) wife (26F) denies almost everything that I ask her to do. by Standard_Buffalo7762

Is arranged marriage normal in your culture? It is in mine, l was never taught the implications of marriage, just told that it was a necessity. If she never had a relationship and has grown up under a culture where dating and talking about intimacy is taboo she probably doesn't even understand the concept of marriage/a relationship properly

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Standard_Buffalo7762 OP t1_iycrt1v wrote

I would say that arranged marriage is normal in our culture. Before we married, she told me about her 2 ex boyfriends, so I don't think that she wouldn't know about relationships. I've yet to talk to her parents about this, do you think I should ?

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undercovertortoise t1_iye7v63 wrote

It's entirely possible for her to be inexperienced even if she had ex boyfriends either way though, talking to her parents is not very helpful, you should sit down and have a conversation with her and ask her kindly about why she refuses to be close to you and express how you have been feeling. She either 1) has been in relationships without being physical at all and does not know how close people are because in my culture I have never seen parents be affectionate with one another, 2) may have married you for material reason only. 3) maybe do some introspection, are you treating her well? If you are yelling at her or anything of that sort she may feel resentful

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Standard_Buffalo7762 OP t1_iyea61r wrote

I don't remember the last time I ever rose my voice in my home or anywhere. I have a firm grasp over my emotions. I really don't want to leave her, I really care about her, that's why I keep doing everything she asks for.

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