Submitted by Lonely-Kunt t3_z8cl9y in relationship_advice
whereisthetvchanger t1_iyb2ipi wrote
I think you need to adjust your expectations. I’m also in my 30s and see this as pretty normal.
It could be a few weeks to a couple months between hang out sessions. We’re all busy. Especially if they got married…or if they work a weird schedule or live more than 10 minutes away. Also- what else is going on in their life? Did they start a new job, going through a renovation, just have a kid, ect.
I agree the ghosting is hurtful. I do forget to text back sometimes. But only you can differentiate if it’s someone forgetting to text back or if they truly don’t value you. Also - what are you texting? Is it a blank “hey” or is it “hey let’s get together soon. When are you free?”.
I’d stop reaching out and see if they do. Then you’ll know for sure.
Lonely-Kunt OP t1_iyb3roq wrote
It's literally like, "We haven't talked or seen each other in awhile and I was thinking about you guys. Do you have time to get together in the future?"
That's the problem I'm having. I know folks get busy, I can accept a, "No, we're pretty busy this week". I just check in later, usually a week or so later.
Whats happening is I'm just being left on read indefinitely.
I don't think expecting people to respond within a couple days of being contacted unreasonable.
I guess you're right, I'm just gonna do what I did before focus on myself and forget these assholes.
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