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e_vil_ginger t1_iyf4ttl wrote

Cried? Really? What are we talking here, long hair to shoulders or a full on half pink half blue half shaved weed wacked nightmare? .... Still nothing to cry over. Get your shit together because life is going to get a lot harder and uncomfortable than a gfs haircut. You have clearly never struggled with anything before if this upsets you that much.

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Icarus755 OP t1_iyf5osp wrote

Yes that is kind of what I was asking. How do I get my shit together? I hate being like this.

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CrazyCatLadyForEva t1_iyfa026 wrote

I think it may not be about the haircut but about change in general. Could that be true?

Yes, crying over this is extreme, but I don’t think it has anything to do with manliness, like this other commenter suggests. It does sound like there is a deeper rooted issue that needs to be addressed.

What may help is to train your brain to refocus away from the hair. So every time you think of it or look at it concentrate on other aspects of your gf that you adore. List 3-5 things in your head and focus on them. Her eyes, her lips, her laugh, her movements, the look on het face when she sees you.. As soon as you think of/see the hair, go through the list of other things and bring your focus back onto what’s more important or outweighs the haircut.

I would recommend to have a look into the actual reason for your emotional response, especially if it’s something that comes up with other issues too. Not because you should never cry, but because it’s obviously a mental strain for you and thus a burden.

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e_vil_ginger t1_iyf6cdx wrote

Toughen the fuck up. Take some martial arts classes, get a good male role model, get off the internet, go outside, I don't honestly have the answers but you have to do something because you can't stay this .... Sorry to say it but pathetic. The women in your life will sniff it out and steer clear, it's not attractive, at all.

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