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It sounds like he has depression. I would kindly ask him how he is doing and if there’s anything you can do to help him. Try to get him out of the house by offering to do his favorite things with him. Suggest he tries counseling because you hate seeing him like this make sure to be gentle and let him know how much you love and care about him. It might be good for you to go to counseling too for two reasons 1. You can vent your frustration about this situation and receive effective solutions and advice 2. It might inspire your boyfriend to go if he sees you going. I hope it works out for you two!

That’s not normal and he needs to talk to a medical professional. That could be depression, mono, epilepsy, and a bunch of other illnesses.

There's no such thing as lazy, just things that stop people from being able to do things. Some disabilities aren't as visible as others, but he still needs to take responsibility for them. Medical intervention is certainly needed at this point

Wow, you honestly come across as an uncaring monster throwing a fit cos you can’t get what you want instead of trying to help someone who more than likely has depression.

He needs professional help and some caring people around him. If you can’t be that, then it’s better you leave sooner rather than later, so he doesn’t spiral more.

My response may come across harsh but I’ve been in his position and it took me a long time to get better due to the toxicity

I think he’s going tru depression, sorry love.

God you sound like a horrible person. There’s no point in even echoing the other comments..if you can’t tell he’s depressed that’s on you.

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This isn't laziness. This is severe depression.

This young man went from doing everything you expected of a partner to sleeping for two days at a time without eating.

Laziness doesn't make you stop eating. Depression does.

He needs help.

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You’re a 23 year old adult and your conclusion was ‘he’s lazy’, do you not understand how bad that sounds? Where’s the caring from your side? Where’s the talking to him and asking him questions instead of just going off on him?‘Depression didn’t seem plausible’? There is SO much information available online that you could have looked at.

Of course you’re not getting emotional support from him, he can’t even take care of his own atm!

You either start shaping up to be the support he needs or go, although your last sentence suggests that you’re not willing to do the former.

It doesn't just sound like he is depressed, he is depressed. There is more to this than just your relationship and he's not doing this to you. He needs help, a therapist, and likely medication cause this rings all kinds of warning bells.

> He is not a bad person now; he still pays 60% of the rent and sends me money when he thinks I need it, and when he is in bed, he listens to all the things that go on in my life without complaining, but half the time I am not sure if he is actually listening.

Just wow. This says everything. Probably the real reason you are still with him is because he's paying 60% of rent and "listening" to how difficult life is for you.