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Wonderful_Lead_6236 t1_iybhj8f wrote

Playing devil's advocate is good, but if he is never validating your feelings or sympathizing then to me it seems like he just never agrees with you.

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Spoon_o_jelly t1_iybhwgw wrote

I think sometimes It can be as well, but even if I'm just mad at a game and speaking to him about it he will act as if I shouldn't have such an reaction. I feel like I can't tell him anything at all.

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MckittenMan t1_iybi2au wrote

Yeah, when there is zero balance like that, its not healthy.

You have to side with your partner and validate their feelings. And a good partner would challenge you occasionally (not always agreeing with what you say).

Except when he always is defaulting to the other side, it shows he stands more against you, than with you.

If a partner always stood next to you... it would make the times of disagreement more viable. It would be done out of good intentions, rather than disagreeing for the sake of no respect.

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Spoon_o_jelly t1_iybijid wrote

Thank you! I couldn't put it into words exactly, but you helped me. I have spoken to him about this before , but I struggle with words not in text format.

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invomitous-rex t1_iybh95y wrote

Has he ever explained to you why he does this? In fact, have you ever asked him?

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Spoon_o_jelly t1_iybhfca wrote

I told him that sometimes I'd just like to..vent. No other remarks needed, just listen. He continues to do it and it makes me wonder I'm being unreasonable.

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Lichen44 t1_iybhshe wrote

Break up with him. That sucks.

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