I texted my sister one final time yesterday to see if she needed me this week (Wed - Friday were my usual days), since she hasn’t been responding to me since I let her know our current arrangement was no longer sustainable. She left me on read until 11:30 pm before texting me “don’t worry about it.”

So I guess I’m off the hook. Even though she’s clearly very angry at me (as I knew she would be) I appreciate all the encouragement and advice I received from all of you it really helped me get the courage to finally have this conversation that should have happened months ago. I do hope my sister doesn’t withhold my niece from me for too long because I would still like to visit with her and take her to do things, I just didn’t want to be their default childcare provider. Which is not at all unreasonable of me.

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eggiecat t1_iyf6nn5 wrote on November 30, 2022 at 10:59 PM

Here’s my advice to you moving forward: don’t worry about it. And if she ever brings it up again say “you told me not to worry about it.” Treat texts like that literally and not like the passive aggressive bullshit your sister intends.

Dachshundmom5 t1_iyf8bw1 wrote on November 30, 2022 at 11:12 PM

You did the right thing. Both for yourself and your family. Not to mention, she needed to find actual childcare before getting g pregnant again.

She was massively abusing your kindness and planning to extend that even further. It had to end.

soxpats111 t1_iyf5kbu wrote on November 30, 2022 at 10:52 PM

You did the right thing, she will get over it, trust me. In time everything will be fine.

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