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She's being unreasonable.

"[Gf], you know I love you a lot and I would do what I can to attend something that matters to you—trust me, there's nothing I'd rather do than spend time with you! But you know I'm busy revising for [x amount of time] and I have to prioritize this in the short term if I want to stay on track for [x career goal you have]. I need you to be understanding of that, but let's schedule something so we can still have quality time together. What sounds fun to you?"

If she continues pushing back, I would start to rethink whether you can manage an unreasonable girlfriend and your job at the same time.

Yeah we have a few things planned straight after my exams so we can go out and enjoy ourselves

Tell her this is what being a responsible adult is all about and she’d better get used to it because it won’t be the last time “life” gets in the way of what she wants.

She’s 22 not 16. Time to grow up.

It sounds like she’s struggling to find her autonomy. I think you should encourage her to go on her own and have fun! You’re completely justified for wanting to focus on your exams and it’s not fair for her to expect you to put everything on hold because she doesn’t want to go alone.

Remind her of that and try your best to maintain a patient tone. I'm sure she's feeling a little lonely while you're busy with work, but don't let her steamroll you or make you feel guilty for doing your job. You both deserve happiness and I'm sorry your job is creating extra stress right now.

Honestly, one day of review probably isn't going to change much. If you want to go then go. If you don't want to go then it's a different issue and you need to talk about boundaries or decide if you want to just go to spend time with her.