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Stop being pos

You were texting a girl constantly, and she didn't already know you have a gf? You've already been emotionally cheating. You'll be lucky if either of them would consider dating you after knowing what you've been up to.

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Well if she is keeping her distance because she doesn't want any sort of romantic situation with someone who isn't single, then I see nothing wrong with that. Are you going to force someone to give you romantic attention when you aren't even single? Be single or let it go. There is a level of selfishness you shouldn't cross. Does your gf know?

If you are "falling for someone else" then you do not love your girlfriend

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You didn’t just “fall for her” this isn’t a movie. It intentionally kept letting her in and telling her things you shouldn’t have about your relationship and your troubles. Make no mistake, by not having firm boundaries, you allowed yourself to get emotionally invest with this girl and now you want to act innocent like it just “happened” .

You emotionally cheated.

How do you have a friend that doesn't know about your long term relationship? Why did you wait so long unless you had hopes of something more with said friend. Sounds like you have been leading your friend on and she bailed when you mentioned your relationship