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PiddleAlt t1_iyepxa4 wrote

Reply to comment by rasmusdf in My (F25) bf (M25) doesn't want marriage. How can I get myself to accept this? by Curious_Lynx_3770

If it means a lot to him, why shouldn't she want to do that for him?

Works both ways.

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Curious_Lynx_3770 OP t1_iyf28bl wrote

I appreciate this being said. The "if it means a lot to you, why wouldn't he do it for you" comment has been said to me by my friends as well. I know it's said with good intent but marriage is no small thing.
Marriage did mean a lot to me yes. And you should want to do anything for your partner (to an extent lol) if they mean that much to you, yes. But my bf shouldn't have to give up his beliefs either. It truly can be argued both ways which is why these conversations we've had around marriage has been hard. We are each valid in what we believe and feel

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PiddleAlt t1_iyf3ama wrote

Yeah, I apologize if it sounded like I was directing that at you. That phrase just triggers me. There wouldn't really be a situation if both people didn't have strong feelings about it.

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Curious_Lynx_3770 OP t1_iyf3xoy wrote

Not at all, you're all good. I had meant I appreciated that you were saying that phrase could be said about me as well because it's true.
I feel the same about that phrase. I get it but I just think it can be an unfair statement sometimes

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rasmusdf t1_iyeq61v wrote

Yeah, actually agree. Perhaps they can do the mature thing, communicate and work out a compromise.

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