Submitted by Chemical-Floor-7867 t3_z92jlu in relationship_advice
Would you find it weird if a guy in a relationship picked up and dropped off a female coworker from work and her home everyday, hung out with at her home alone, go shopping with her, texted her everyday, gets worried when he messages her back late but doesn't with his gf, and worries about oversleeping when they're supposed to go out for lunch or something? Am I crazy for feeling uncomfortable?
This definitely doesn't sound like a normal co-worker relationship at all. Carpooling sure, spending additional time together all the time, not normal.
Sounds obsessive imo. If my male bff were calling me everyday, texting me everyday, and prioritizing hanging out with me over his significant other I would no longer be his friend. It's not okay to feel neglected in a relationship because your partner is putting a lot of his energy into another girl.
Oh and if they're so close....why don't the 3 of you just hang out together? Seems like a very weak relationship.
Nope
That's madness, ask him what if it was your male coworker doing that to you?
Wait how do you know who is the gf and who is the coworker? Are you a maid at his house?
Initially I was like sure, that’s fine. Then I got to the ‘hung out at her home’, ‘go shopping with her’ and ‘texts her everyday’ and I was like errrrrrr no. You are definitely not crazy for being uncomfortable about this.
You have three choices:-
Personally, I’d say either 1 or 2, because there is no way I’d be accepting that.
you sure your not just the bit on the side? confront him ffs
nip that right in the ass now. from experience and observance i think you are very justified in how and what you are feeling. boundaries if any have been and are being crossed if not full blown already. i dont trust the explanation of that work relationship ...the truth there ..man... its unacceptable
It sounds like you are the side chick. He should be doing those things for you. Show him this thread.
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