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Honestly? Time is the only healer, here. The more time that passes, the easier it becomes. It's totally normal to be floored by something like this. I promise you, one day you wake up and it starts to feel a little bit lighter. You will come through it, even though it doesn't feel this way now.

idk how to break it to you but you never really do… your first love is something that will stick with you forever. people only learn how to cope with the feelings. the feelings and memories fade over time, become bittersweet. i still think about my first love some nights. we were together for two years broke up senior year, he was my first everything. the only choice you have is to pick yourself back up. you’re still loveable, if anything now more than ever. You’re no longer as vulnerable and naive. Your first love you love with all your heart, but your second you get to love with your brain. Take your time before getting into another relationship, you don’t want to lose your sense of self. Keep your standards high even in times of feeling lonely.

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I know it can be hard if you’re in high school but if you have the chance to make more friends I’d definitely focus on that (especially over dating). If you’re in a situation where that’s not really possible it’s also an opportunity to throw yourself into hobbies (again easier said than done though if you’re in a really low place). I just wonder if you can shift in little ways, like from watching YouTube videos to movies.

But more important than either of those is just to feel your feelings. It’s a process we all have to go through and the first one is often the worst. When you come out of it (and you will, with time), you’ll be that much stronger and more capable of whatever comes at you. It really is a “the only way out is through” situation.

My first big heartbreak was when I was 20 and I lost a bunch of weight, couldn’t do anything… scream sobbed in my dorm. It was DEVASTATING, completely rocked me to my core. It passed, but not before I did all the crying and made a bunch of sad playlists and felt really sorry for myself. And after that I knew I could get through anything.

Avoiding feeling your feelings isn’t going to make it go faster, just make sure you make room for some fun too - like watching movies (I just like this one bc it’s easy) or whatever brings you joy. And check in with yourself about whether you’re actually feeling sad in this exact moment, or whether that has just become comfortable, because that’s a thing too.

I don’t think this is the case for everyone or even most people - seems like this is specific to your situation (or maybe it has only been a couple years?) I very rarely think about my most devastating heartbreak anymore, and when I do I don’t feel sadness. Just don’t want OP to think they’ll necessarily never get over it bc that seems unlikely to me.

Thank you :)

I appreciate the time you took to respond and I think you gave some really great advice that made me feel better! Thank you again and I hope you’re having a nice day/night

It kind of sucks that time is the only healer because i want these feelings to just vanish. Thank you for your response :)

Time and distance mostly, one you start to actually get over them and others notice you hope begins to bloom again.

Glad to hear it! You got this, and take care of yourself and your heart!

It wasn't so much of time as it was that one day I realized I shouldn't look backwards to a past that cannot be changed. That I needed to always move forward. And that's what I've continually done since that day. Always move forward.