Personally I think he is a lost case.

When you have made your points/ expectations clear and he continues to break them it is time to start preparing to leave.

He is clearly very controlling and in addition sounds like he is gaslighting you as well. His behavior is unacceptable.

If you want, give him a last chance, start searching for a new place to stay - and when he fails - you leave.

That is if you do not leave now - he sounds like a lot of red flags.