Okay, so firstly, you're completely in the right here and he's being a total douche canoe.

That said, you ask him if you do that stuff to him but have you straight up told him to stop? And if he doesnt stop, what are you willing to do? Bc boundaries arent "do/dont do that thing" , they're "this person violated a clearly communicated boundary, therefore they dont get access to me".

For some tips and tricks on boundary formation, i recommend this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/3davsm/tip_setting_boundaries/

Honestly if it were me, I'd break up with him. I cant imagine being treated this way, nor treating someone else this way. And trust, its not that he doesnt understand, its that he doesnt care about your discomfort. He simply does not respect you.