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MckittenMan t1_iye9axn wrote

I'll take a stab at it.

You like the person when its easy-going, i.e the early stages. It's less demanding.

Once they begin to develop more for you, it is a bigger demand for your attention. Now you feel obligated to entertain this person and make room for them. Like its become a responsibility.

After you feel like it becomes work, you withdraw and lose interest.

Does any of that resonate with you?

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dyingofthirst23 OP t1_iyea7m7 wrote

that kinda makes sense to me tbh, but in my current situation things have continued to be easy. i just feel like i’ve begun to lose interest and that i feel like i deserve better than it? maybe it’s like i don’t know if i wanna give my all to this person. because i would if i was truly fully attracted to them. and i keep doubting my attraction to them

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MckittenMan t1_iyefzo3 wrote

In that case, I don't see anything wrong that stands out.

Ideally, you should have enough interest in a person to date them. After you learn more about them, your interest should increase... It just sounds like you're going through a normal vetting process.

You may have a smaller pool of things that trigger a development of interest than the average person. Nothing wrong with that. My only comment would be to maybe try exploring more personality types?

Someone else commented that this could be tool for you to seek validation. True. Worth thinking about.

What you don't want to do is settle for someone that you just feel "meh" about. Nothing wrong with seeking someone more appealing to you.

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dyingofthirst23 OP t1_iyeiqbv wrote

thank you so much! i think it is that i’ve raised my standards a lot from what they used to be and i’ve begun to understand what i fully like and seek out

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