Submitted by conse_lad t3_y3z9p1 in relationship_advice
She said, "Just because you came to see me doesn't mean you care or whatever. I hate you."
She gaslighted, guilt-tripped, and exploited me in every possible way. I invested so much of my time and labor on her. I helped her with her studies, did all the paperwork to get her admitted to a university, bought books and gifts all while helping her cope with her depression.
I am absolutely devastated. How do I deal with such betrayal?
EDIT: I didn't expect comments section would blow up with pearls of wisdom about how to cope with betrayal of this degree.
I have gotten rid of all the things she claimed to have given me out of love, since they no longer hold any value. I didn't necessarily destroy them, I just gave them away.
My family and Reddit's fraternity have been exceedingly supportive of me and they have succeeded in convincing me that she wasn't just worth my time. For this, I will forever be grateful to them. I will take my time to mourn the death of the person I believe existed and learn to move on at my own pace.
She was never mine. It was just my turn.
TLDR: I went to visit my girlfriend just because said she missed me and wanted to see me. Then, she dumped me for her ex-boyfriend.