Submitted by tvbee876 t3_yirfq8 in relationship_advice
As the title says, I (25F) am in love with my best friend (27M). We first started talking about a year ago, we met through social media and realized how much we have in common pretty quickly. We soon grew closer and closer and are now inseparable. I think I had feelings for him from the very start but I kept pushing those feelings away and I don’t think I can ignore them any longer.
We both had bad luck in previous relationships so we’re both very cautious when it comes to these things. He has said before that he’s not looking to be in a relationship unless it’s something serious. It’s sort of a long distance relationship, I only get to see him ever couple of weeks and we don’t really have a place to hang out in so we usually just drive around and listen to music.
He’s a very shy person and is not a man of many words, he never really said anything that implied that he might see me as more than his best friend. I’ve tried talking about other guys around him and he encourages me to talk to them. The only thing that makes me think that maybe he does see this going somewhere is the amount of time and effort he puts into this friendship. Like I said, he’s very shy and introverted but he always makes time to text me whenever he can, we text each other 24/7 and talk on the phone multiple times a day. I’m pretty sure he talks to me more than he talks to his own family.
I don’t really know what to do. I’m not even sure he likes me back. I think I’d rather suffer in silence than risk the chance of losing him. He’s the sweetest nicest most handsome man I’ve ever met in my life. I keep waiting for him to mess up or say or do something horrible but he never has, it’s been more than a year and I’ve seen him at his best and at his worst but he never said or did anything bad.
So, should I risk it and tell him?
TLDR: I’m in love with my best friend but I’m not sure he has feelings for me and if I should risk it and tell him.
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