why might my (34M) ex (38F) not reply to my text?

Submitted by bippityboppitysch t3_yiq6qg in relationship_advice

I broke up with my ex early 2020. Together almost 4 years. We broke up because I was having a mental health issue.. my depression came back and I started drinking alot. Plus, she didn't want kids and I am pretty sure I want one. She was always really upset about me talking to female friends and was always so interrogative. We broke up a few times but always got back together. This time we didn't because I started seeing a friend right after we broke up, and she stopped talking to me, told me to leave her alone and even reached out to my girlfriend. I'm still seeing my girlfriend though I'm not really sure where it might go. I haven't talked to my ex in over a year.

I keep running into her in places but we don't talk. I'll wave and sometimes she does, sometimes doesn't. I ran into her again this week, I waved and she kind of flipped me off. So I text her making a joke about it and hoped she was well. She didn't respond.

I miss my ex, mostly for our friendship but we had a lot of fun and same sense of humor. I don't really know why I text her but I'm wondering why she wouldn't respond, even if its to tell me to go away. I'm pretty sure she's still single from what i hear. Why might she not respond?

Tl;dr text my ex after a year and seeing her in public, she didn't reply.

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Robojobo27 t1_iujwwro wrote

Why might she not reply?

Because you’re an ex, your relationship ended 2 years ago, stop trying to reach out she clearly wants nothing to do with you and to move on with her life, I’d suggest you start trying to do the same.

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bippityboppitysch OP t1_iujxfkt wrote

I did, i've been with my current girlfriend since we broke up almost. I just don't understand why she would ignore like that, i was just trying to wish her well

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Robojobo27 t1_iujxnt7 wrote

I don’t understand why you’d want to reach out to an ex at all unless there were children involved or legal issues to sort out. You’re her ex, just leave her alone.

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bippityboppitysch OP t1_iujxso6 wrote

I guess i was hoping to catch up. I miss her sometimes, just wanted to know she is doing well.

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Robojobo27 t1_iujy3wa wrote

I still don’t fully understand why you’d really care, especially if you’ve moved on, but maybe that’s just me.

Just take this as a hint that she doesn’t want anything more to do with you, get rid of her number and let her live her life.

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code-sloth t1_iujxvnq wrote

She doesn't miss you. Leave her alone.

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Neither_Computer4662 t1_iujz4gs wrote

Stop hanging on to your ex. You left her for another woman and you’re still with that woman, why would she want anything to do with you? Don’t try to reach out anymore and take the hint.

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bippityboppitysch OP t1_iujzh10 wrote

I didnt leave her for another woman. She was always mad at me for talking to female friends while I was having a depressive episode. My current girlfriend was there for me during it and i didn't start dating her until after I broke up with my ex

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misterk2020 t1_iujwrq7 wrote

She’s done with you. Just let her go, she’s made it clear she’s not interested.

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fujidust t1_iujwx9b wrote

Sometimes you just have to cut someone out of your life and move on. This requires you to steel yourself against being warm, open or kind to someone - especially if there’s not going to be a return on that investment. Sounds like she did that to you, finally. Move on dude.

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bippityboppitysch OP t1_iujxhnl wrote

I have moved on, been with my current gf since we broke up almost

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EquasLocklear t1_iuk4wio wrote

I would have second thoughts in your girlfriend's place about the relationship if you are still so obsessed with your ex.

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bippityboppitysch OP t1_iuk5b3e wrote

I'm not obsessed with her lol i'm just surprised why she wouldn't respond

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EquasLocklear t1_iuk68a1 wrote

Why would she need to respond so badly, especially if there is nothing important to talk about?

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bippityboppitysch OP t1_iuk6j26 wrote

I'm just surprised. I figured she'd reply back with saying she's good or wonderd how I'm doing or... something. I don't really know tbh.

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EquasLocklear t1_iukae9e wrote

After warning your girlfriend against you and flipping you off?

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Historical-Mirror-95 t1_iuk1uea wrote

She doesn't owe you a hello.

You broke up with her because of your mental health and started seeing someone right after the breakup.

You mentioned her being a bit controlling about female friends and then go on to say that you broke up a few times and got back together but not the last time because you started seeing a female friend right after the break up....

If this happened to me, I'd feel really betrayed and pissed off.

Don't expect anything from her and don't text her. You can reminisce but if she doesn't want anything to do with you, leave her alone.

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cassowary32 t1_iuk4a0n wrote

Because she doesn't want to talk to you?

Why would you text someone who flipped you off the last time you saw her. She probably thinks you are stalking her.

Leave her alone.

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InspectionAntique764 t1_iuk4kay wrote

I’d just leave her alone. She clearly doesn’t want anything to do with you.

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