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Round-Midnight-7011 t1_iuizzk3 wrote

Reply to comment by Illustrious_Video687 in I hurt my BF’s feelings and don’t know how to earn back his forgiveness by [deleted]

Huh. Does this touch on a specific insecurity of his?

It's not a nice comment, for sure, but it's also not long the lines of "you have never satisfied me sexually and you're pathetic". This seems a pretty strong reaction to a comment like that. I get that the comment stung, don't get me wrong! But it isn't as bad as what I imagined.

If you don't truly feel that way, can you trace your thoughts back to figure out why you said it? There is always a why, even if that why is just "I was being a salty drunk and said something to poke you to get a rise out of you."

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Illustrious_Video687 t1_iuj0te5 wrote

Not any specific insecurities that I know of.

I’m assuming that I might have said it to get a rise out of him or as some fucked up salty drunk joke. I know that my friends and I clown on each other a lot drunk or not but I usually don’t do it around him.

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Round-Midnight-7011 t1_iuj1knp wrote

Ok, well, sit down and think things through and get an answer that is more definitive than "I'm assuming". This isn't the time for ambiguity.

Then, when you talk, explain to him why you said that. Apologize again sincerely once, but don't belabor it. Reassure him that you don't feel that way, and use specific examples to back it up.

After that, you've really done all you can do. I don't think you should bend over backwards too much for a comment like this.

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