WombatCheeks t1_iui5lqg wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:50 PM

As a guy, I'll say it's within the realm of reason for you to be weirded out. I usually don't exchange sunset pics with my homies

sugarfreespree t1_iuiads4 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:23 PM

Yeah that’s what I thought lol 😂 I send stuff like that to my husband, my mom, and my little bro, and MAYBE my best gal friend.

RandoBoomer t1_iui92cn wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:14 PM

I'd do nothing... FOR NOW. Continue monitoring, but say nothing. Saying something might trigger a change in behavior.

While this does sound a little different, if you don't see more behavior of this type, you can write it off as a "one-off" and that's that.

However if more photos continue, then you can have a discussion with your husband.

sugarfreespree t1_iuiaoli wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:25 PM

We talk about everything so we’ve already discussed it, I told him it seems like she’s got a crush and it makes me uncomfortable and I hope she deals with it appropriately. He agreed and said he’d let me know if anything changes or escalates.

I wanted to check in to see if I’m overreacting though. I personally wouldn’t send random sunset photos to friends but maybe that’s common! I dunno!

PersonalityBeWild t1_iui5mfm wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:50 PM

I send my friends photos of sunsets I guess but I don’t typically text people photos of sunsets. Maybe it was to the wrong person? Not sure. Maybe it’s just a nice photo and she wanted to share, but yeah, I can’t say I’ve had that happen.

sugarfreespree t1_iuiaahr wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:22 PM

It was honestly average at best - grainy, kind of … bad overall, definitely not text worthy imo.

But I’m a photographer so maybe I’m being a jerk. 😂 trying to be self aware too!!

samzimms t1_iui5yuk wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:53 PM

Did she say anything or just send the photo? Could she have mistakenly sent it to the wrong person? How did you husband reply?

sugarfreespree t1_iui9xdb wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:20 PM

He said “nice” he doesn’t encourage her. I talked to him about it and he was not defensive at all. I think he recognizes why it’s weird, but also we “need” her for some projects and in general she’s a nice person, but I do think she’s developed a crush, and he agreed that’s possible and will keep tabs on it and shut it down if it gets too weird.

samzimms t1_iuiacor wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:23 PM

Well that sounds very reasonable. Have faith in your husband. I'd stay aware of what she is doing, but otherwise realize that when she doesn't get the attention she is seeking, it will pass.

sugarfreespree t1_iuib8d1 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:29 PM

Oh yeah I have total faith in the man. He’s amazing and completely trustworthy. It’s the woman that bothers me, and it makes me feel disrespected.

sugarfreespree t1_iuiaf0x wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:23 PM

Oh and nothing was said just the photo

Mountain_Monitor_262 t1_iuicxu3 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:40 PM

If he didn’t show you then say nothing and keep an eye on it. A conversation obviously came up about a place/trip or waking up to the sunset. If he did show you then ask where it it was taken at and what made her send this pic as casual discussion. However, this would be the time to consider and planning to pivot the business. If your business depends on flirting to maintain a relationship at the expense of your marriage what does that say about your relationship and your business? Research other resources and make sure you have access to those messages, all devices, and phone bills.

sugarfreespree t1_iuil21y wrote on October 31, 2022 at 4:35 PM

Yeah we both have full access to each other’s stuff. He didn’t “show me” but he opened his texts in front of me and didn’t try to hide it (we text around each other all the time, no hiding)

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earthchildreddit t1_iui7g36 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:03 PM

Over text or something like Snapchat? If it’s text I’d say that’s a little weird, Snapchat is fairly normally if they keep up even semi-regularly which I assume would be the case since you do business together

sugarfreespree t1_iui9m87 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:18 PM

Text, they only text every 2-3 weeks. I wonder if she’s just socially awkward. I’m not sure.

Female friend sent (average photo) of sunset to my husband. Why?

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