Viewing a single comment thread. View all comments

Jen5872 t1_iuiy7jf wrote

Tell her the truth. Tell her you're father told you that you were not welcome on the calls anymore because even though you're civil towards your brother, he can not manage to do the same so you refused to mend a relationship with your brother who is hateful towards you.

1

mganga_mzungu OP t1_iuiygz8 wrote

I mean I will tell her that I just need help phrasing it differently... More polite...

0

Jen5872 t1_iuizihc wrote

There's a saying... You can put all the lipstick on a pig that you want but it's still a pig.

I can't think of a way to politely tell your mom that your dad told you you're not welcome because you won't subject yourself to your brother's craptastic behavior. It is what it is.

5

mganga_mzungu OP t1_iuj049v wrote

Ugh... You're right, I feel like I'm just lying to myself thinking there's a way to mediate this

2

The_Infamousduck t1_iuj97q0 wrote

Prepare yourself in advance for "Yes I know, he told me, and I agree with him".

Seems to be a lot of information you're leaving out of this. I really hope your brother every once in a while dropping a rude comment isn't enough for you to bail on your family, so I assume there's hopefully a lot more.

More info would help towards answering your questions.

1