Yeah, that was my first thought. OP, 5 years is def a lot of chances for a relationship to flourish, so I think you are telling yourself lies here. You created this story of how the relationship just Had No Chances, which is simply not connected to reality. Please re-evaluate: why you are creating this narration, what is the purpose, and what is the truth? And how this truth changes things, when you realize what it is (spoiler: the relationship had tons of chances to flourish, but it just didn't. So maybe this man isn't actually your soulmate? just an example of things that may come to mind when you recognize the "we just had NO CHANCE to flourish" things is a total fabrication)