A little background in currently 18 and in a relationship for about 9 months and I’m already tired of sex. She constantly what’s to have sex and it’s just so tiring and inconvenient. I’m the first guy she’s been with but she’s the 6th girl I have. How do I politely ask her to please stop asking me to have sex it’s honestly not enjoyable it’s the same shit and at this point I can think of several things I would rather do.

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Liveware_Failure t1_iuk5a36 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:06 PM

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Look into whether you might be asexual, if you are, then talk to her about that.

SandyVapour992 t1_iuk5zsc wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:11 PM

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You have a conversation with her about how your sex drive is not as high as hers, and you two decide if that difference is something that you can accept/work around.

silly69stoner t1_iuk66sc wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:13 PM

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Mismatched libidos are a thing. If she’s constantly horny and you’re not then maybe your not the best match for a long term relationship. If you’re bored don’t be afraid to try new things, you never know what turns you on until you try it sometimes.

Murky_Anxiety4884 t1_iuk6ygw wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:19 PM

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Say what you've said here. It looked polite enough to me.

I suspect what you really want is for her to be tired of sex too. That would be a very different thing.

Creative_Recover t1_iuk8pou wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:33 PM

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Are you disinterested in what you're doing sexually, or is your libido low (or both)?