Wanting to contact my ex

Submitted by cornmountain t3_yipiii in relationship_advice

I got divorced earlier this year, it was messy. No interest in ever contacting the ex wife.

I have been wanting to contact my ex-girlfriend (a girl I dated 7 years ago, we dated for like 4 years) for months now though. I think mainly for familiarity and out of loneliness. Haven’t gotten back into dating bc I’m not ready yet.

Convince me I shouldn’t?

Pros:

  • Talking to someone who cared about me
  • Perspective on what we learned in our relationship

Cons:

  • If she ignores me, I’ll probably feel like shit
  • She was manipulative and dramatic and didn’t treat me well
  • I have no interest in getting back together, don’t want to risk it
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Aggressive-Profit189 t1_iujt1c0 wrote

You answered your own question/concern with the cons you jotted down . It’s not worth it to go back to the past . You need/should learn , heal and grow as an individual before thinking about other people .

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yowen2000 t1_iujtbyr wrote

> I think mainly for familiarity and out of loneliness

These aren't good reasons to get back together with anyone, please note what's glaringly missing: you didn't say anything to the effect of "she was the one that got away" or "I still love her". So do both of you a favor and don't come back into her life.

You also asked us to convince you that you shouldn't. So you already know that you shouldn't.

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