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TotalLoose8308 t1_iuj8w0v wrote

He should be open to considering other names.

>Should I humor him and watch the show?

Yes. You should, because you should have the context of the name. At the very least it strengthens your argument by showing you are taking the time to consider his position and this is not a dismissal made out-of-hand.

If the only name he has "personal significance" with is some anime girl... then the name itself is only one of the problems here. Have you two discussed the possibility of other names that have significance to him? What did he say about that?

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CatLevel3620 OP t1_iuj9l4m wrote

Ok, I'll tell him I'll watch the show then. I have asked him if there's other names he would consider but they're all equally bizarre. He said Madoka is his #1 pick and I'm not being fair by rejecting the name when he didn't reject the name I picked for our son. I feel like I'm just arguing in circles at this point.

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TotalLoose8308 t1_iujagp9 wrote

>He said Madoka is his #1 pick and I'm not being fair by rejecting the name when he didn't reject the name I picked for our son.

Yeaaaa, that's why deals like you made are kinda dumb, but not much you can do since you can change the past. Don't make that kind of blanket deal in the future, though.

Be careful how you frame your responses. It's clear he's on the defensive. You want to make sure you're coming at this as a "lets find something we're both happy with" and perspective and not "your name is dumb". He shouldn't be so defensive, but us humans are silly emotional animals sometimes and that's easier said than done.

Would I be correct in assuming you pointed out that "but I didn't reject yours" is not a one to one comparison, because your name did not have the implications that his does? It's a dishonest argument to pretend the situations are analogous, but that can be hard to bring up without setting an antagonistic tone.

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CatLevel3620 OP t1_iujd8m7 wrote

Yes I did point that out but he said it doesn't apply because we didn't put any restrictions on what the names could be when we made the agreement. I will try to reframe it to be less antagonistic, so thank you for the suggestion.

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childofcraigslist t1_iujhgpw wrote

I would frame it as it being important that you both love the name you choose for your child. He had no objections to the name you chose, so it's not the same situation as this. I assume if you'd wanted to name your child Pigpen because you loved the Charlie Brown character, he'd have objected to that. Obviously Madoka is not a derogatory name, but it is a name you dislike and both parents should have veto power because it's not great for the child to be named something that has negative feelings attached for one parent.

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Jazzisa t1_iujb5qq wrote

Lol just be happy he didn't go for the second main character, Homura XD

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