omaolligain t1_iuie9f0 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:49 PM

This is some HS bullshit.

Not everything is about you. Maybe she's just fucking busy, maybe the run up to the wedding is stressful, maybe she has work issues, maybe she has health issues, maybe she's just tired... you have no idea because none of it is your fucking business... Be a good friend and be empathetic of your friends who seem to be a bit more withdrawn for a time; and then eventually I'm sure she'll come around and things will change for her. But, if you seriously can't find an empathetic bone in your body then just skip the wedding and save this poor woman from your drama filled head.

larlyssa t1_iuik31k wrote on October 31, 2022 at 4:28 PM

Thank you for your comment. I promise I’m not trying to make it about myself - she’s just the type of person who normally texts back in 2 minutes, so it’s quite out of character. And the one time I’ve seen her frustrated with me, she similarly went radio silent.

WeeklyConversation8 t1_iuir11f wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:14 PM

Planning a wedding is stressful. She doesn't have time to text everyone back every day. She has to deal with the venue, vendors, finding her wedding dress, etc. Even the most chill people can get overwhelmed by all the decisions that need to be made when planning a wedding.

omaolligain t1_iuili2j wrote on October 31, 2022 at 4:38 PM

It doesn't mean she's frustrated or stressed with you. There are other things in her life that could stress her out too. If you're worried about her invite her for coffee or dessert alone sometime. And don't get offended when she can't (again, she could just be stressed out and tired with no relation to you at all).

CawCawMotherfluffers t1_iuipayi wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:03 PM

I think the one who needs some empathy here is you.

omaolligain t1_iuiqjgm wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:11 PM

Yes, my heart truly breaks for the OP that she was invited to a wedding by her friend... What a truly hard position for her to be in.