My gf 19f and I 20m are currently in long distance and I don’t think I can do it anymore

Submitted by UsefulIncome5187 t3_yi936e in relationship_advice

This will be my first post on Reddit so excuse me if it’s not the greatest.

My 19f gf and I 20m currently are in a long distance relationship of 3 years, the first year we lived in the same state but her father moving forced her to go with him. Anyway I currently am living out of my parents house with a roommate. She is still living with her parents. My gf has also said that she would like to move out here and that she loves this town, but her not wanting to leave her family behind is making her second guess, and the strain of long distance is starting to get to me. I feel like I can’t trust anything, and the anxiety everyday is killing me. So would It be wrong if I told her she had to move to my state.

Feel free to ask if more info is needed

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hecatonchires266 t1_iuhi8c5 wrote

She's 19yrs. She's can't just uproot herself from her folks home with no plan in place on where to go to, where to stay, and also bills to be paid. If you don't understand this, the you shouldn't be dating her.

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UsefulIncome5187 OP t1_iuhidyq wrote

I have a house and I’ve lived in it for 4 months now I have a stable job and it pays alright and rents very cheap were I am

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hecatonchires266 t1_iuhijp5 wrote

That's you mate and you're a man. She's 19yrs. Would you advice your 19yr old sister if you had one to go live with some guy in another state?

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UsefulIncome5187 OP t1_iuhipza wrote

I’m not just some guy I’ve visited many times and so has she her family and I are on very good terms.

Not trying to argue with you either just making sure you have all the information

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hecatonchires266 t1_iuhiujg wrote

Yes that's just visiting but you haven't answered my question.

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UsefulIncome5187 OP t1_iuhj0a7 wrote

If I had know the guy for 3 years and lived with him for weeks at a time yes I think I would

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hecatonchires266 t1_iuhj6f9 wrote

I still would not do that. Not at that age. Yes she's an adult at 19 and capable of her decisions but still it would be a worry. If she's not ready to move to be with you then don't force it. Let her decide if she wants to.

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