"Hey, I'd rather we didnt discuss past sexual partners. I dont think you're wrong or bad or anything for having had fun, its just that thinking about you with other ppl makes me uncomfortable. I'd prefer to focus on us and our future instead. How does that sound?"

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First, I believe the past DOES matter. Past behavior is often a good indicator of future behavior.

Second, her saying she "loved all the attention from men" sounds like a MASSIVE red flag to me. That's someone who enjoys validation. Far too many people who need validation are searching for quantity rather than quality.

Third, it's not insecurities. It's about learning your partner's past. You don't need to justify to anyone (especially a partner) why something in their past bothers you. If it does, it does. It is an incompatibility that is nobody's fault.

Fourth, as emotionally difficult as it may be, LET HER TALK. Gather information to determine if she is someone worth committing to. There are tons of people who are great dating partners but poor life-partners. Breaking up with a dating partner is a lot easier both emotionally and financially.

Well I believe past does matter.

Anyways, just tell her you aren't comfortable and interested in her past. But what if in a party or any other gatherings, there are guys around who she slept with. You would be ok sharing table with them without knowing about it or you expect your gf to not to take you such places.