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Mischka2015 t1_iujgnlr wrote

I don't see any harm in reaching out to her as a friend. Before you do, though, make sure you have thought it through (with your head, not your heart). Yes, that's easier said than done. But, you need to be prepared - knowing what your hopes & expectations are - and what you'll do if things don't go the way you hope for.

The embers of old flames can burn for a long time. And because they do, they can give you a sense of something you once had that you'd like to build on. But that prior relationship isn't what you want to build a foundation on. Time and circumstances shape who we are. So neither of you are the same people now as you were then.

Reestablishing a solid and genuine friendship, with no expectations of anything else, is where I suggest you start. I don't think it would be fair to either your heart, or hers, otherwise

Good luck, OP.

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Specialist-Tap9880 t1_iujh0ru wrote

yeah i’m in total agreement with you. We’re not the same person either of us dated back then. We’ve both changed a lot and i might not even fall in love with her again because of this but i think friendship is a nice way to start it. See what she’s like now!

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