InspectionAntique764 OP t1_iuk37c5 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:49 PM

Reply to comment by Paranoia_Pizza in My Bf thinks it’s okay not to tell me his plan’s because “we don’t live together” by InspectionAntique764

That’s what I would have done 6 months ago but we have built up a lot and have been fine I don’t know if he’s just having a problem that he doesn’t know how to express

Paranoia_Pizza t1_iuk3fga wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:51 PM

Yea it's really bizarre.

Maybe you could try talking to him about it again from a "are you OK?" Approach.

It's not normal to not know what you're partners doing at weekends.. how can you plan things with them if you don't know.

InspectionAntique764 OP t1_iuk3n6b wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:53 PM

Exactly I have no problem if he’s going out with his friends or whatever. Just make time for me and let me know what’s going on and if plans need to be changed that’s okay

Paranoia_Pizza t1_iuk3qdy wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:53 PM

I really think you'll need to talk to him about it again tbh

InspectionAntique764 OP t1_iuk3unu wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:54 PM

I definitely need to. I’ll try again face to face and see what happens. Thank you

Cool_Story_Bro__ t1_iuk4azh wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:58 PM

Sunk cost fallacy.

6 months ago or today it doesn’t matter. Same abusive behavior.

ExpressingThoughts t1_iuk77o8 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:21 PM

That sounds like sunk cost falacy to me, and people can fake or hide things for six months to a year easy.

I'd take this test and keep a lookout: https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Hopefully he will apologize for what he said to you and promises to not do that again.