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LittleSpice1 t1_iujow84 wrote

Reply to comment by FreckledAndGinger in boyfriend shares a birthday with my mom by lalasbakery

But should it though? If they end up getting married, he becomes her immediate family and should have reasonable priority over her parents. I believe setting boundaries with parents/in-laws is better done sooner than later.

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lalasbakery OP t1_iujuy04 wrote

And I agree with you. I don't want him to feel like his birthday comes second ever, eventually it will come first. For now I want them to feel equally as important to me and I am having trouble juggling them in a way that makes them both feel good. It's bad enough they have to share with a major holiday.

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LittleSpice1 t1_iuk3p29 wrote

I also share a birthday with my FIL. Somehow this has never been an issue. Your boyfriend and your mom even have different birthdays. I don’t think you’re making him feel like both of their birthdays have the same priority because you leave his birthday early to start celebrating your mom’s birthday, which hasn’t even started by this point.

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