Witnessed kiss between gf and guy we know

Submitted by alohasprinting t3_yilfho in relationship_advice

This weekend I (30M) witnessed my gf (28f) kiss an acquaintance outside of a bar. She was fairly drunk and had done a dab pen earlier. I broke it off that night . trying to determine if that is the way to approach it or if I am overreacting to it all. It was a short moment, we had been together for 4 years and live together.

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oiler1996 t1_iuj9r5d wrote

She cheated on you man, drunk or high doesnt matter she cheated, and if they cheat its over no exceptions. What would have happened if you didnt catch them, she would have probably taken it even further. If she knew she had an attraction for this guy she shouldnt have been drinking alone with him, she wanted this now she needs to be dumped and make single, you deserve better man

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wigglebuttbiscuits t1_iuj7uzt wrote

What did she have to say about it?

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alohasprinting OP t1_iuj89ht wrote

I asked her if she did and she said yes, and was and has been very remorseful and devastated.

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wigglebuttbiscuits t1_iuj8obf wrote

But no details beyond that? Who kissed who, whether she’s attracted to him, etc?

There is a big difference between ‘he kissed me and I was kind of startled and kissed back for a second before I got it together’, and something where they’d been flirting and she initiated.

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alohasprinting OP t1_iuj9gs0 wrote

it was instigated by her. She has mentioned in the past she always thought he was a nice guy and good looking. it was definitely her feeling in the moment. Even after she was leaning into him a bit.

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fubar_68 t1_iujq0nl wrote

Probably not the first time. Just the first time you got to see it. Break up and no contact

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