sadgirlthrowaway32 OP t1_jeba1gj wrote on March 30, 2023 at 7:31 PM

Reply to comment by cinnamongirl73 in My ex (26M) lied to me (26F) during breakup. I found out and I don’t know how to get over it by sadgirlthrowaway32

I have this nagging thought there is smth that I did that makes me worthy of whatever he did to me. Like if I was prettier or better he wouldn’t do this to me… it is very hard to get over that.

It’s also funny bc him and his friends said multiple times that he would not find someone better than me as a whole package

cinnamongirl73 t1_jebeecu wrote on March 30, 2023 at 7:59 PM

Ok, Pep talk time!!! You are WORTHY!!! Of a BETTER MAN!!! Repeat that!!! He is NOT worthy of YOU! Look what he just did. He proved it. He KNOWS you’re struggling with all of this, especially now that he knows and he’s going to do WHATEVER HE CAN TO KEEP YOU ON THE HOOK!!!

The next time he shows up, tell him he better have your stuff (luggage, etc) you’re making the decisions now. You’re keeping the cat, give you the key, find a roommate, move, do whatever you have to do, but take charge, but when you do, make sure it’s to end it. He’s already shown you who he is. You can’t “help or save him.” All you can do is turn your back on him. And girl, I KNOW it hurts, but the quicker you do it, the sooner you will heal!

You have to do this like ripping off a band aid. Make it quick, it’s less painful. Trust me. When he’s not there to remind you of his presence, it WILL FADE AWAY!!!