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SystemicHappiness t1_jebxenq wrote

>I don’t want him to grow up without both parents being present

Divorce doesn't mean he loses a parent and even if it did he'd grow up a lot happier with one parent who loved him rather than in a home where one of his parents is actively disgusted by the other.

It's important to do what's good for your son but doing it at the detriment of yourself will hurt him in the long run.

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todayismyirlcakeday t1_jecoq33 wrote

OP your kids gonna be more fucked up having no idea what a healthy relationship looks like

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SystemicHappiness t1_jecox0f wrote

Exactly, I'd rather my kid only see me on weekends than to grow up thinking it's okay for them to be in a marriage like that.

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OtherwiseInclined t1_jedrti2 wrote

Exactly. In this case his son would benefit from not having OP in his life, so that he doesn't have to see his dad posting on r4r subreddit describing himself as "extremely horny, well hung, jacked white male" looking for a "discreet FWB" while his wife is pregnant.

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Kubuubud t1_jecq0el wrote

As someone with parents who SHOULD have gotten divorced, staying for the kids does not help the kids. Parents are the main example of a romantic relationship, so if theirs is toxic, kids learn that romance is toxic. It warped my views on love horribly and took many years of therapy to dissect the issue and heal. Your kids deserve to see a good model for loving relationships

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