I would highly advise pre-marital counseling for everyone. You will walk through the biggest things that cause couples to break up and talk about in a structured and moderated way.

I would suggest a conversation where you express how disturbed you are by your previous conversation on the housework topic. I might suggest taking a quiz designed for pre-marital couples to look at where you agree and disagree on key topics. I’m having a hard time believing that housework allocation is going to be your only sticking point.

From there you can look at the big picture and decide if it is time to move forward or move on from the relationship.