Submitted by ThrowRAHelpMe13 t3_1283gxq in relationship_advice
My (18f) boyfriend (18m) says I ignore him when we go on vacations
So this isn't a super dramatic story, but i need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now and have had a pretty stable relationship where we can talk about things that bother us. He's always been a little more reserved than others when it comes to his thoughts and emotions but hes always opened up to me one way or another.
Today when I was at his house, we were talking about this trip to Florida we are taking with about 13 other people for spring break. This trip is tommrow and I thought we were excited for it, but while we were talking he said that on the last trip we went on, I ignored him. I was stunned because I didn't know he felt that way.
The last trip was to a cabin in the woods with a few friends during winter break and I thought we had a lot of fun. This is the first time I've heard him say that I made him feel that way and I tried asking him about it. Sure, I was a little less PDA than normal because the friends we went with were more conservative, but I still made time to talk to him, hug him, kiss him, and be there for him.
I asked "what did I do/didn't do that made you feel that way?". He didn't answer and kept deflecting with jokes, goofing around with me or playing a game on his phone.
I kept asking him to communicate with me and said that if I made him feel this way on our trip this week, to let me know so I can fix it. I don't want him to feel that way because he's so amazing and I don't want him to think that every trip will be one where I ignore him.
As I was leaving, he walked me out to my car and there I asked him, " why wont you talk to me about this?" And he said he just didn't want to. I told him, "we need to communicate babe so I know what's going on", but he again said he didn't want to talk about it.
I feel like this trip will be a good time to show him I love him and that even around people, he's still the most important person in the world to me. But he won't even talk to me about how he feels, I don't know what to do.
Reddit, any advice on what might be going on or what I may have done? I just want him to not feel this way on this vacation as well.
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