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xvszero t1_je2tgj9 wrote

I feel like there are a few things probably true here.

  1. He's probably never going to stop looking at porn.
  2. It's not about you "not being enough" or whatever.
  3. It doesn't necessarily mean he will want "variety" in who he sleeps with.
  4. But that doesn't mean you have to like it. Kind of up to you to decide what you do about it.
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ThrowRA_KristiAmbers OP t1_je6d2ge wrote

Thank you for your answer.

I'm going to tell him exactly how I'm feeling: That his watching and beating off to porn makes me feel awful and unloved. And that if he wants to spend forever with me, he's going to have to choose between me and the porn.

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xvszero t1_je6kucr wrote

While I don't think this is wrong I can tell you what will almost certainly happen. He will agree to it to keep you, hide it from you, you'll find out he is still doing it and feel betrayed and be hurt worse. Basically no one actually quits porn for a partner.

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ThrowRA_KristiAmbers OP t1_je6mxs0 wrote

That makes sense.

It hurts, but it makes sense.

I've got a lot of thinking to do.

Thank you for your honesty.

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