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Your boyfriend has laid out a boundary: he does not want to be with a partner who watches porn. While it may be a boundary I don’t agree with, he is entitled to have it.

You now have to decide what is more important to you. The ability to watch porn, or being with this particular person. No one can make that choice for you, only you can do it. If this is a compromise you are unwilling to make, it means that you and he are not compatible as partners.

Only you can decide. If this is his one request and it's a deeply held conviction that he also applies to himself, you might choose to make this sacrifice as a kind of loving gift to him. If there are other rules he's imposing on you, though, let him go.

Sometimes there are hard lines.

You laid out the opposite boundary to him first. You said you weren't going to change on this. Now he's saying he doesn't accept that.

Either you two find some kind of compromise or you walk away. There isn't a third option. The two of you want contradictory things and have clearly expressed them.

My only advice is you both sit down, be calm and non-judgemental and talk about your feelings towards porn. Don't argue with each other. Try to understand each other. It may be in the process of coming to understand why each of you feels the way you do that one of you softens their stance. Maybe not. Don't make it an argument. Don't try to debate each other. Sincerely make an effort to understand and see if there is any change of heart.

Otherwise, walking away is the only option. You can't both have two contradictory things.

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