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[deleted] OP t1_jeaoyfd wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:17 PM

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[deleted] OP t1_jeap3qw wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:18 PM

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TheUpwardsJig t1_jeasi12 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:39 PM

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"When you make jokes like these, it tells me that you have those other sexual encounters on your mind and are comfortable reliving them for jokes and likes. As your partner, it is my strong preference that you not air out past sexual experiences on the internet while you and I are in a committed relationship. This is not a gendered issue, nor proof of underlying misogyny, as I also believe it would be fully unacceptable for me to behave this way too. I am happy to support you, and as an advocate for women's rights, I fully believe it is a woman's prerogative to have as much sex with as many people as she wants. I am not debating any of that. I'm not coming to you as some troll on the internet trying to police your right to express yourself. I am coming to you as your boyfriend, your committed partner, with a problem I'm having about your behavior. Please don't dismiss my discomfort."

[deleted] OP t1_jeatzc3 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:49 PM

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Redd_81 t1_jeavkl7 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:59 PM

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I mean she is right, you can't stop her from posting whatever she wants.

But you can decide what behaviour by your partner is acceptable to you. If they aren't conducting themselves in a way you find appropriate (even after letting them know you are uncomfortable), then you need to decide if it is a dealbreaker or not.

[deleted] OP t1_jeawrkn wrote on March 30, 2023 at 6:06 PM

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[deleted] OP t1_jeaycvd wrote on March 30, 2023 at 6:16 PM

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[deleted] OP t1_jeb2nqb wrote on March 30, 2023 at 6:44 PM

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[deleted] OP t1_jebak7r wrote on March 30, 2023 at 7:34 PM

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Own-Writing-3687 t1_jebb45z wrote on March 30, 2023 at 7:38 PM

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Her behavior toward you is: selfish, entitled, hurtful, disrespectful, and show zero empathy for you.

Doesn't matter why she justifies her toxic abusive behavior.

Just ghost and block her. Never have any further contact with this person.

[deleted] OP t1_jebbf3p wrote on March 30, 2023 at 7:40 PM

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JockoJohnson69 t1_jebbwiq wrote on March 30, 2023 at 7:43 PM

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What does you feeling awkward and disrespected have to do with women’s rights? And why are you so worried about insulting her - she has no problem insulting you. As others have mentioned, you can’t stop her from posting that but you don’t need to put up with it either. Either deal with it or break up if she isn’t going to respect you.

Edit: and don’t write to her - talk with her face to face.

[deleted] OP t1_jebesmy wrote on March 30, 2023 at 8:01 PM

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Ill_Temperature898 t1_jebffuc wrote on March 30, 2023 at 8:05 PM

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Doesn't sound like a good partner, she doesn't really care about your feelings. Maybe time to move on to someone you are more compatible with.

Unable_Duty7809 t1_jebkkwc wrote on March 30, 2023 at 8:38 PM

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Whenever you make reasonable requests of your partner and they start to go down the road of calling it misogyny I can do anything I want... it's time to let them go to do anything they want.