I'm (25 M) doubting everything because my gf (26 F) interacts with her abusive ex on social media

Submitted by throwRA-AO2524007 t3_127z54c in relationship_advice

She has been rude, cold and distant with me and giving me the silent treatment for 3 months and idek what did i do this time and it is pretty bad to the point where she didn't celebrate my birthdays and didn't celebrate me getting my bachelor degree and getting a good job. Sometimes she gets mad over little things because she got borderline personality disorder and i understand how it is affecting her but this time is different. I felt some feelings in my gut that she is cheating at least emotionally so i asked and she dodged the question and the entire conversation so i started monitoring her social media and i found some suspicious activities on spotify and Facebook Some guy got a love playlist for her and on facebook she interacts with her "abusive" ex (they broke up 2 years ago and told me he isn't in her life anymore) she interacts with every single post from him. How can he be abusive and you got no identity because of him yet you're interacting with him???

The trust is gone I'm doubting everything now. Maybe when she ghosted me it wasn't because of her mental health issues maybe she cheating Also your ex is abusive and yet you're interacting with him? Now I'm doubting everything she said about him and doubting that she loved me

I feel so disrespected and humiliated because of how she refused to answer my questions about cheating, the immature responses aka silent treatment and ghosting about any difficulty we faced in the relationship and how this guy made a love playlist for her but she was so mad at me when i created a playlist for her a year ago and about how she interacts with "abusive" ex despite being in a relationship with me

I don't want this relationship anymore. Am I overacting?

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keyboardstatic t1_jeghnfh wrote

Have some self respect and break up. That's not a loving suportive relationship. The trust is lost and without out trust it's just a matter of time until it collapses. Just end it now.

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MckittenMan t1_jeghxt2 wrote

>I don't want this relationship anymore. Am I overacting?

Why would you think you're overreacting... your judgment is sound:

  • She has been rude, cold and distant with me
  • Giving me the silent treatment for 3 months
  • she didn't celebrate my birthday
  • didn't celebrate me getting my bachelor degree and getting a good job.
  • Sometimes she gets mad over little things because she got borderline personality disorder

Taking the 'cheating theory' out of the equation, you're left with the above.

That is enough of a reason to end a relationship.

She already stuck you with the knife... the cheating theory is just her twisting it.

Follow through with this:

>I don't want this relationship anymore.

This relationship doesn't sound like its worth being in. Break up, take some time for yourself, and find someone who can offer a healthy relationship and make you feel loved.

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pbblankgirl t1_jegquqv wrote

>I don't want this relationship anymore.

I don't blame you. This is some bullshit.

>Am I overacting?

The perfect reaction to this is breaking up. Or ghosting. Take your pick.

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