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throwawaybreakuphel OP t1_jee94yc wrote

Reply to comment by jmummert23 in My (23f) boyfriend (30m) treats me differently when I don't feel like having sex by throwawaybreakuphel

By start and stop, I mean if we start making out it always leads to sex because it turns him on a lot (it does for me too, but I need a bit more warm-up than he does) so often he's been frustrated because I'll be making out with him (which I LOVE but it's a turn off when there's an expectation for more), but then I might say no when he asks if I feel like having sex.

I completely get that lack of sex is frustrating - but, for two people who don't live together, is once a day/every two days really a "lack of sex"? I feel like we'd have MORE sex if this wasn't an issue

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throwawaybreakuphel OP t1_jee9uj4 wrote

It isn't really a session, I'm talking about when we make out for like 10-20 seconds. I don't really have an explanation I suppose, it just takes me a bit longer to switch from "cute make out" mode to "let's get it on" mode. I just wish there could be some times where we'll make out on the sofa and can just leave it at that until we pick it back up later. For me I like when foreplay happens with intimacy throughout the day, but if he could, he would easily have sex every single time we make out

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throwawaybreakuphel OP t1_jeeap76 wrote

I do all those things though, I've communicated all those things many times and we have an incredibly compatible sex life. It's just the disappointment on the occasions where I don't feel like having sex that are difficult for me. I'm very serious when I say if I was up for it 50 times a day, he would still be wanting it more.

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